Dating to just friends
But if they’ve done cool or interesting work in the past and are legitimately in a transition phase, that’s different from someone who’s been “transitioning” for the past three years.
Don’t Avoid Making a Decision you Need to Make This can be one of the most difficult truths to accept, but it’s also probably the most important.
In other words, should you cut your losses now, or be patient and tolerant to see where the future will take you? But if you can think through some key relational issues and stick to some basic guidelines, you’ll have a better chance of making a good, healthy decision as you try to determine just how significant you want to make this new other in your life. Expecting to change a person that you’re dating falls into the “trying to teach a pig to sing” category.
Don’t Expect to Change Someone There’s an old saying that you should never try to teach a pig to sing. The simple fact is that for 99% of us, we are who we are.
Don’t overemphasize the small stuff, and don’t expect the impossible.
Do Think about what Matters most to You Concentrate on whether you and this person are like-minded and compatible in terms of values and important issues. Yes, it may be true that they don’t have a job right now.
You guys have the best time together-maybe deep conversations, hysterical laughter, you share common interests, HELLO you are perfect for each other!
Here’s how to tell if you’re in the friend zone-and 1. As I mentioned above, if the object of your affection only spends time with you in the presence of others…it’s not a good sign.
I’m really big on this open heart, brutal honesty thing in 2011-lol, we’ll see how that goes. If you’re putting all your energy into someone who just isn’t that into you…stop it!If you genuinely care for this person and see ways they can improve their quality of life, then that’s a justifiable motivation, especially if you can present your recommendations non-judgmentally and with respect.