Dating someone who has cancer loui batley dating
I have been dating a woman for about 6 weeks and starting to develop feelings for her.Yesterday she told me she has cancer, and that it is a particularly bad form of it and based on my research, general life expectancy is not that great.So I am optimistic that she still has a long time on this earth, but perhaps that optimism is out of my wanting to deny that I could lose her any time.
I feel I have much more to consider than my own feelings and happiness.
Call me if you'd like some company." The needs may change over time as does the illness and perhaps the worries as well.
So I think showing up, showing genuine concern, being flexible, and then negotiating how it is you can best provide that support is the best way forward. Schapira: It's important to remember also that caregivers and friends also need their own support so if you are feeling overwhelmed by feelings because it's somebody you're very close to because you feel you identify with their plight, it's important for you as well to look after yourself so that you can be more useful as a friend, as a supporter.
To see additional videos, visit and subscribe to Cancer. We've got so many different ways of communicating, and everybody, every relationship sort of has their own comfortable way of communicating. What I mean by being a listener is, in a way, putting aside your own thoughts, not thinking about what you're feeling or saying but really being there and asking your loved one, your friend, your neighbor, your family member to tell you what they're worried about. Schapira: One of the valuable lessons I've learned doing this work is not to make assumptions about what people need or want.
But just one way of getting it started is to say, "I heard about the situation or I heard about what you're going through, and I just want to you to know that I care and I'm here for you." Just something very, very simple. I think that's useful advice also for family and friends who are looking for ways of expressing their support.However she has survived longer than normal, she is coping well with the treatment it seems.