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However, the possibility remains that this apparently platonic coexistence is merely a façade, an elaborate dance covering up countless sexual impulses bubbling just beneath the surface.
New research suggests that there may be some truth to this possibility—that we may think we’re capable of being “just friends” with members of the opposite sex, but the opportunity (or perceived opportunity) for “romance” is often lurking just around the corner, waiting to pounce at the most inopportune moment.
You and your BFF share everything from clothes to chemistry notes, but one thing has always been off limits—your crush. It seems that the guy you’ve had your eye on for months likes her—and she likes him back!
Even worse, she wants to date him, and she wants you to be OK with it.
To the outside observer, it seems clear that these vastly different views about the potential for romance in opposite-sex friendships could cause serious complications—and people within opposite-sex relationships agree.
In a follow-up study, 249 adults (many of whom were married) were asked to list the positive and negative aspects of being friends with a specific member of the opposite sex.
You could forbid her from seeing him, but that won’t do anyone any good.Your best bet: make a pact with your friends that you won’t date their past boyfriends.It’ll save you a lot of weirdness and a friendship or two.Men seem to see myriad opportunities for romance in their supposedly platonic opposite-sex friendships.
The women in these friendships, however, seem to have a completely different orientation—one that is actually platonic.
The results suggest large gender differences in how men and women experience opposite-sex friendships.