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It’s unnerving approaching a group of Dutch men or Dutch women to strike up a conversation with someone you have your eye on – but such is the dating scene in the Netherlands.
Foreigners sometimes feel isolated by the mass social gatherings when going out, but unless you see another way in, you’ll just have to brave it and charge – and accept the possible public rejection, or possibly even a group first date.
The Dutch love efficiency and leading someone on can be a waste of everybody’s time.
You can find that both Dutch men and women cut out flirting and small-talk in favour of simply stating one’s desire or intentions.
The value of equality seeps into many interactions in Dutch dating.
Dutch men in general are not renowned for opening doors for Dutch women or taking their heavy bags.
While Dutch women might like it when men do this, they do not expect it.
But it’s not impossible – many foreigners report happy relationships and marriages with Dutch nationals.
While many foreigners initially find dating in the Netherlands daunting or inaccessible, understanding Dutch personality traits and mentality can help reduce miscommunicating the ‘flirting’ signals as practised by Dutch women and Dutch men.
Of course, similar to elsewhere, online dating in the Netherlands is increasingly becoming the norm as taboos are shed, particularly among older daters.
Either way, be prepared that a date is not always going to be free ride, nor will free drinks in bars be that forthcoming from Dutch men.
However, this does not mean that paying for your date is not appreciated – it’s your choice.The Netherlands has less of a dating culture than other countries, for example the US or UK.