Believe me, I have been there: I know how hard femme invisibility is.But, like I wrote last year, once you switch your energy from meeting butches to doing you (taking up a new hobby, going to the gym, volunteering, doing what makes you happy), they start popping out of nowhere and on your direction like crazy.Butch women don’t want to be men, they just like the more masculine image.Plus, femme girls don’t want to be with a man, or they would be. Amazingly, many people don’t understand a butch – femme relationship at all and in some cases, they are convinced that the butch girl is a man anyway, despite what they are told.There is no chance you are going to look like identical twins when you go out and its cool that neither of you have to worry that your favourite boyfriend jeans or designer heels are going to be pinched by your partner. Besides, when they come off you are both the same and know exactly what to do.Firstly, take off the jeans then slip off the dress. Totally hot and totally cool and a time for gender playtime. One likes the hairdressers, painted nails and sexy dresses.I’ve gone on many dates, attended speed dating and even gone online, but all the women I date are not willing to spend the time to get to know me, have a quality relationship and always break it off quicker than I’d like. Dear Butch: I am sorry you’re having such trouble because I know lots of femmes who would love to meet you!It’s a top complaint I hear, “Where are all the good butches?
The Butch-Femme dynamic is something very powerful and dear to many women’s hearts.
– AA/NA/SA meetings – not my thing, but if you are sober you are bound to meet butches at different stages of recovery there.